• Married at First Sight

    Married at First Sight S:3 E:14 – Decisions, Decisions, Decisions!

    No one was surprised when Ashley and David parted ways in part 1 of the Married at First Sight Decision Day. For the other two couples, we were left with a cliffhanger that had viewers in knots for an entire week. After what seemed like forever, we finally got to see the decisions from the other two couples. I have to admit I watched the second half of the episode with my jaw on the floor. Let’s start from the beginning. First of all, the experts who match these couples take it very seriously. Do they want them to succeed? There is no question at how invested they are. But they…

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    Married at First Sight – Journey Through the Lens of a Viewer S:3 E:13

    In the 3 seasons of watching Married at First Sight, we’ve seen candidates come from very different walks of life, in an effort to find love. Each person brings a diverse background and a set of experiences that make them unique and relatable.   My blog has not been a recap of the show, rather a record of how viewers like me can learn and grow their own relationship from watching it.   As the season is coming to a close, I want to share my thoughts on what it takes for this social experiment to be successful. First of all, I believe in the science behind Married at First…

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    Married at First Sight – Journey Through the Lens of a Viewer S:3 E:11

    We are coming down the homestretch of season 3 of Married at First Sight and things are getting real between the couples.  This week I will share my lens on how I see conflict and keeping an open mind as it relates to this social experiment. Conflict Resolving conflict can be a tricky thing when you and your spouse know each other well and have an established relationship. However, when you marry a stranger, there is no chance of that happening. You have to hit the ground running. What’s even more tricky in conflict, is when the information presented from both sides does not align. When your words become a battle of…

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    Married at First Sight – Journey Through the Lens of a Viewer S:3 E:10

    It’s 4th of July week on Married at First Sight and the fireworks are out in full force. All three couples continue to push through and tackle some really difficult issues.  The common thread my husband and I saw this week was trust. We sat down and had a conversation about what trust looked like for each of us and how it’s changed in our marriage over the years. Why do we love Married at First Sight? Because this is the first time in over 30 years we’ve had this conversation. Amazing.   Defining Trust   In the early years of our relationship, we made some mistakes when it came to…

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    Married at First Sight – Journey Through the Lens of a Viewer S:1 E:9

    Watching Married at First Sight was a struggle for me this week for so many reasons. Tuesday was the eve of the loss of my father and while it’s been two years, I’m with David Norton…on certain days, it doesn’t get any easier. As I write this today, my heart is completely broken. Again. This morning my husband and I had to make a difficult decision. We brought our beloved Brady to the vet to be euthanized. His suffering and pain is over, but ours has just begun.  I can’t imagine not being greeted at the door with his adoration and unconditional love. I can’t imagine not being able to feel and smell…

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    Married at First Sight Journey From the Lens of a Viewer S:3 E:8

     I was feeling huge angst while watching Married at First Sight this week. I was one huge bag of emos by the end of the episode, which was so evidently relayed in my tweets. Someone in Twitterverse asked if I saw pieces of myself in these relationships. I needed to ponder that and ponder it I did, into the wee hours of the morning. It took some deep digging and brutal honesty, but here it is… Communication and Time to Process   I am totally in the moment and reliving my early days of marriage with Tres and Vanessa. If I’ve ever been the Queen Bee of anything, it’s the, “I’m…

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    Married at First Sight – Journey Through the Lens of a Viewer S:3 E:7

    Last week my blog focused on how communication impacts change as it related to the 3 couples of Married at First Sight. This week I want to continue the conversation about adapting to change as I believe it affects every aspect of this social experiment and more importantly, my life.  Expectations It’s difficult not to have expectations coming into this situation. You have hopes and dreams of your “happily ever after”. However, having unrealistic expectations can be the difference between success and failure, not only in marriage, but in life. Bringing expectations into a relationship is unfair and can get in the way of open communication and building a connection. It puts roadblocks up without the other…

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    Married at First Sight – Journey Through the Lens of a Viewer S:3 E:6

    Resolutions and goals for 2016 abound as we look for ways to change to improve our lives in the new year.  While watching the couples move in together this week, thoughts come to mind about the numerous changes they’ve made in a short period of time. It’s enough to make even the most flexible person get bent out of shape.  As my journey to walk in their shoes continues, this week I will share my own personal thoughts on change and how it relates to the couples. Identifying the Problem A key factor to change in a relationship is first being able to identify the problem. This takes deep self-reflection and time, as…

  • Married at First Sight

    Married at First Sight – Journey From the Lens of a Viewer S:3 E:5

    This week on Married at First Sight, the honeymoons are over and reality sets in. All the couples continue to go through a “plethora” of emotions (thanks Sam) and I’ve highlighted a few. Here are my thoughts on how it would feel to walk in their shoes… Reality Sets In   While you’ve had ups and downs in your relationship, overall you have made progress. Now that the honeymoon is over, you are anxious to get home and get back into a routine. This is when reality sets in and your life as a married couple begins.    You are trying every possible way to draw your stranger spouse out.…

  • Married at First Sight

    Married at First Sight – Journey From the Lens of a Viewer S:3 E:4

    Like many viewers, my husband and I watch Married at First Sight because of it’s rich, valuable, life lessons, for us as individuals and as a couple.  This week as we take a journey through the honeymoons, our lens will focus on how, who we are as an individual, impacts us as a couple. Here are my thoughts on what it would feel like to walk in their shoes… Trust  “Learning to trust is one of life’s most difficult tasks” ~ Isaac Watts   Trust is honesty, loyalty and respect. When you trust someone, you have confidence that you are physically and emotionally safe with them.     You bring your…